The number one reason that EFT isn’t working is because you aren’t being specific enough. It’s very important with EFT to be as specific as possible about an issue or feelings. For example, instead of saying “This pain in my leg” you might say “This pain in the calf of my right leg.” Or, instead of “my fear of water“, be more specific about the kind of water–i.e., “My fear of the ocean…or deep water…or lakes…or swimming pools, etc
The Subconscious Mind is “Protecting” You:
For chronic or long-lasting problems, complex issues, and even serious illnesses sometimes the 0-10 intensity level remains the same after a couple of rounds of tapping.
One common reason is that the subconscious mind perceives that it is better or safer to keep an issue (like negative emotions, chronic pain, extra weight, or a bad habit), than to eliminate it. Since it is seldom a conscious choice, most people will initially disagree with you if you tell them that subconsciously they don’t actually want to get rid of their problem or issue. Of course, most people don’t consciously want to stay emotionally upset or physically in pain. But the subconscious is a powerful entity, usually exhibiting dominance over our conscious desires.
For someone who has carried around a trauma, chronic pain, phobia or other issue for many years the emotion becomes a part of his or her personality or even his or her identity. Overcoming or losing that “identity” can be very threatening to the non-rational subconscious mind.
For instance, the subconscious might be programed to believe, if I get over this issue…
- I won’t have an excuse anymore for my life not working.
- It might be scary.
- I may not know who I am anymore.
- It may not be safe to let it go.
- I won’t know how to act as a functional, non-victim person.
- I won’t get the attention or sympathy I get now.
The good news is this is very easy to fix once discovered — simply by the statements and phrases you use. Using phrases such as, “Even though…I don’t really want to get over this depression (trauma, chronic pain, etc.) I deeply and completely accept myself.
Core Issue Hasn’t Been Found:
This is an important item and often missed. Sometimes you need to do some detective work with questions and prodding until you discover the main cause or “core issue” for a problem. If you’re stuck, ask questions like “When did the problem start?”, or “What was going on in your life when it started?” Often, I’ll discover that someone’s allergy, asthma or migraines started coincidentally about the same time of a divorce, death, or traumatic accident in the family.
Our bodies can find unusual, creative and seemingly ridiculous ways to deal with difficult situations. We can morph an emotional event into a physical problem without being aware at all of the timing or connection.
Core issues are different than being specific about an issue in that they are often hidden or not as obvious. Nonetheless, finding a root cause is equally critical to solving tough-to-solve cases. It’s not always easy to do this on your own, since we have a tendency to block out unpleasant events or connections to events. Seeing a qualified practitioner can be very beneficial when you’re stuck on a challenging problem.
Shifting Aspects or “Daisy Chaining:”
Shifting aspects are a little like a strawberry plant whose root system runs from plant to plant under the ground. Often when you start tapping on one specific issue it is linked to a number of issues and your subconscious mind will “daisy chain” from one issue to the next. One strawberry plant may represent the core issues, say a horrific car accident. But different plants represent separate issues, such as the guilt someone might feel for causing the accident, or the anger at the other driver for being drunk. Another aspect on the same plant might be the trauma of seeing a loved one die, or hear the screaming of someone in pain.
When Shifting Aspects, you should usually stay with the original problem until it’s at an intensity level of zero, before tackling the new aspect. Let judgment, intuition and circumstances be your guide. Part of the art of using EFT is knowing when to swing to the next issue and when to finish the original issue first. Either way, just make sure you get all aspects of an issue to a zero before going on to a different issue.
Being Dehydrated or “Dry Batteries:”
Much like a car battery, our bodies’ electrical system doesn’t work so well without water. Often when I’m getting nowhere with a client, I ask him/her how much water they’ve had to drink so far that day. I’m still surprised how often this is an impediment to EFT’s progress. Being dehydrated is fairly common, but so easy to fix. It just takes having the client drink a glass of water before continuing. It’s all part of the “art of EFT”.
Lack of Motivation:
Once in a while I’ll come across a person who would rather stay stuck than change their life that is not working. It’s a sad choice, but too often true. Sometimes coaching is the idea of the spouse or family member and not the clients. In that case it almost never works because they don’t want it to.
Sometimes people who have been a victim for so long, the victim mentality becomes such a big part of their identity that they don’t want to change. Often, they will respond to my questions with “OK I’ll try, but it won’t work–nothing ever does.” Or, “I’ve been this way so long I don’t think I’d know how to act if things were going right for me.”
You can’t help someone if they really don’t want to be helped. This is different than people who have subconscious blocks or are skeptical about EFT. You don’t have to believe in or understand EFT for it to work. Some of the biggest fans of EFT now were skeptics at first. As long as someone wants to change, EFT can work for them. If they’re not motivated, they will not cooperate. Accordingly, you will have an uphill battle on your hands and you are not likely to get very far.
A strong enough toxin or sensitivity, in, on, or around you, can also stop EFT from working. Energy Toxins and Substance sensitivities are the rarest of the stumbling blocks, but they do happen. Sensitivities can be caused by something you just ate, by clothing, by carpeting, by pets, by a watch, by jewelry on your body, or by metal in your body–such as pins, fillings, braces, or metal plates. Sensitivity can even be caused by a cell phone, pager or other electrical device! Toxins can be medications a person has been taking or drugs. In order to eliminate a sensitivity or toxin you need to identify it, which can mean a lot of work and detective duty.
The Bottom Line:
The bottom line is, if we don’t get an immediate result, we don’t say to ourselves “EFT just isn’t working”. We simply ask “What’s in the way here?“
~ Lindsey Kenny, EFT Master
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