Desperate to Figure it Out? Yep, I struggled with that most of my life.

Sometimes I would get myself so twisted in a knot, feeling so desperate to figure something out, my heart would pound, I would feel panic in my whole body, I would feel like I was running out of time and I couldn’t think straight.   Have you ever felt that way?

The more I would stress about it the more and more desperate I would become.  I could feel a burning sensation in my chest and the more I would try to “figure it out” the more desperate I would feel. The harder I’d try the more intense it would feel.  My body was reacting out the fear and anxiety triggered by my flight or flight mechanism: my amygdala, the little mechanism in my brain that controls the fight, flight or freeze response.  

My heart would beat faster, my muscles would tense, my bloodstream filled with the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline, the blood would leave the thinking part of my brain to rush into my arms and legs to prepare to fight back or run away.  With that limited amount of blood in my creative brain I was unable to think clearly and that kept me stuck in the fear and anxiety of desperately trying to figure it out vs being able to think of a solution!

If this ever happens to you and you’d like a tool to help you to calm down quickly and get out of this viscous circle I’d like to offer you a basic tapping script that has helped me. 

(NOTE: Remember, tapping sessions are as unique as you are and this is a general script to be used as an example.  When working together one-on-one or in groups I am able to customize the tapping exactly for you and your specific needs.)

I know it may feel difficult to take the time to tap when you are feeling so desperate, however, tapping can help you calm down physically allowing you to be able to think more clearly and creatively in a relatively short amount of time…

Be specific. Not just, “I feel desperate to figure it out.”

But, something more specific like, “I’m feeling this desperate to figure it out feeling in my chest again and it reminds me of the time in 8th grade when my dad made me guess an answer for my homework and then got mad at me. 

The common spots where we feel that intensity in our bodies is:

–tension in our head


–burning sensation in our nose

–a lump in our throat

–pressure or tension in our chest

–sick or nervous feeling in our stomach

–tightness or tension in our neck and shoulders

Found it?

Ok, now give it an intensity number.  (0=NO emotional charge at all and 10=a HUGE emotional charge)

Great!  Now, let’s tap….

(Side of Hand)

The Set Up Statement: Even though I feel so desperate to figure it out, like the time when my dad made me guess an answer for my homework and then got mad at me. I choose to accept how I feel now.

Even though I feel desperate to figure it out NOW, like the time when my dad made me guess an answer for my homework and then got mad at me. The harder I try the worse it gets, I completely choose to accept how I feel now.

Even though I feel this desperate feeling that I HAVE to figure it out NOW, like the time when my dad made me guess an answer for my homework and then got mad at me. .  I’m running out of time and it feels so stressful.   I deeply and completely accept how I feel.

The Reminder Phrase

(Eyebrow)  I feel so desperate

(Side of Eye) desperate to figure it out

(Under Eye)  I feel so desperate

(Under Nose)  I feel like I’m running out of time

(Chin)  The harder I try the worse it gets

(Collar Bone)  All this desperation in my body

(Under Arm)  I’m open to the possibly that I’m safe right now

(Top of Head) I choose to release it and let it go

(Eyebrow)  This desperate fear that I’m running out of time

(Side of Eye)  This desperate feeling in my body

(Under Eye)  I’m open to the possibility that I’m safe

(Under Nose)  I choose to release this panic

(Chin) In every cell of my body, every fiber in my being

(Collar Bone)  It’s not serving me anymore

(Under Arm)   I choose to release it and let it go right now

(Top of Head)   What a relief

Take a deep breath….

Now go back to the event in your minds eye about how you originally felt with the “Desperate to Figure it out” feeling in your body.  What is the intensity number now?  Did it go up?  Did it go down?  The intention is for it to come down.  However, sometimes we aren’t quite specific enough. 

If you’d like to learn more please register for an Introductory Session one hour Zoom session at / Get Started.  Let me share with you how to help you get out of your own emotional way and answer any questions you might have.  It’s important to have someone you feel like it’s a good fit to work with while doing this work. So I offer a Happiness Guarantee. If for any reason this isn’t a good fit for you, you can get your money back. No questions asked.  No risk.

I look forward to hearing from you!



Desperation is expensive…

Emotional Freedom is priceless!

Gwen Orwiler
Gwen Orwiler

Gwen Orwiler is an Emotional Freedom Coach & Inner Child Advocate. Through tapping, Gwen helps her clients release emotional wounds from their past, at a core level, so they can live their strongest life today.

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